Question:
OK how can I sum myself up in one sentence or label?
My doctor at university said I am a sex addict and sent me to therapy for
it, but the therapist said as I was young (21 years old) and it was
consenting adults, I just have a high sex drive, so what's wrong with that,
I should just ignore others who say I shouldn't hit on every girl I like and
have as much sex as I can, so who's right the doctor or the therapist? I
kind of like have an identity crisis, on one hand some people say I am a sex
addict, other a womaniser, others a pervert, some are envious, some despise
me and some are impressed and congratulate me. I don't know. Polilitical
correctness says I shouldn't be the way I am, but then morals are other
peoples views, so there not nessacalry right. This is something the
therapist said and said I should ignore the political correctness and live
my life how I want. I like girls, I like sex and they do consume my life and
90% or my time and motivation to do anything, but despite that, I still
manage to do other things, well most of the time, deep down I don't think
there's anything wrong with pursuing as much sex and as many different kind
of sexual experices as I can get, it has taken me to lots of places and met
lots of interesting people and done things I never would have otherwise, but
I also sometimes think that what I am doing is wrong, like a moral dilemma
if you like, but not really because I think it;s wrong, but because other
people think it is........i am confused! On the subject of high sex drive
what gives you a high sex drive like I have? Is it physical like the body
producing a lot of something or is it psychological the mind that make you
like it?
Answer:
think short explaination for this is "Does it consume your life?"
then this simplay qualifies as an addiction. Once something takes
completely over you its an addiction. I sense that you like having
lots of sex, but think that maybe you also think that you should not
be sleeping around so much. You did not say much I could go on, but I
know something about addiction. Everybody makes fun of me because I am
a work-a-holic. Now I enjoy working alot, but everybody knocks this
quality about me, and everyone (EVERYONE!) says that I could
(rather--should) also have a relationship to balance myself out. Now
my opinion is I like working, think that it is rewarding (more
rewarding then any relationship I ever had..) and the benefits will
also pay for me in the future. For me school and working on my
projects is much more rewarding because that is what I want, and hwere
I can fulfill myself. Does it take over my life...hmm, I guess so, I
mean I am sitting here in my room reading a unix for dummies book
because I have to learn something so I can get my website working, and
guess what? Its saturday night...PC says I should be out having a good
time because I am young, but I working. That annoys me-- I mean who is
to say me going out clubbing is going to be rewarding or even
enjoyable?
Anyho,w although I aspire to be a sex addict (because that would mean
I would actually desire sex greatly), but I don't, I don't think it
should matter what a therapist tells you, espcially if they try to
bend you against your will, or nature (whatever that means...). And i
have some expereince with them, so I can say I do know something about
their methods.
So...before i ramble further, if you are always thinking about sex,
skipping work of school, and have no other interests aside from having
more sex I think your a sex addict, because you have failed to
integrate other things into your life which are also required (and no
I did not mean a second job, getting married/having kids, or any other
brainwashing!)
