Question:
I have been through a year of counseling for sex addiction and found that
the two counselors I was with and the group I participated with that
Internet porn was NOT really that common of a sex addiction. For others it
was massage parlors, phone sex, voyuerism, movies, etc. Mine is purely
visual media porn...Interenet porn at the top of the list and is it ever a
big time killer...every bit as bad as any of the above mentioned, if not
worse!
Anybody else plagued by this as much as I? I've slipped and am trying to get
back with it. Would appreciate any comments or support.
Answer:
First, if this is OK to ask, what was the age groups of those in
counseling. The reason I ask is that older people, tend not to embrace
new technology. I myself am 26 and I find that with my group, it is
the Internet that is the greatest source of pornography.
I know the two benefits of use the Internet, cheap and secret. I
mean you can order videos and other materials and the only person
who knows what is in the box is the sender, since most of the material
is sent in a plain box. I am sure the carriers could guess, but that is
all. As far as cheap, all you have to pay for is access. There are
numerous sites that post passwords and backdoors that make it
more easy. Then there is the Usernet.
So I guess the first thing is to see the sample. I know some of my friends,
who are into sexual addiction (they may not think so, but I do) use the
Internet and movies. One even uses sex toys. I think the most disturbing
fact with this friend is that his wife is fine with it. I know if I was married
I would never hurt my wife with this addiction. I can say this since I tend
to put people before me. That is how would this action effect my
relationship with the other person.
I guess another point of view on your comment is that it depends on how
the person was introduced to their sexual addiction. I think this is the
most relevant means.
I concur with you that it was (is?) Internet porn that is my greatest
crux. As mentioned, I would mainly use password sites and the Usernet.
I would spend hours downloading the images to quench my cravings.
It was the most lowest point of my life. I am not sure what was the
metamorphous was, but I am happy now. I have deleted out the files
and links. This was the hardest. I guess because of all the work that
I put into compiling my collection.
I am always here for you and everyone else on this list. I hope one
day that all of those with this addiction will stand up and destroy
the evil empire that is the pornography industry!
